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A friendship should be like a marriage; that person should love you through thick and thin, in the good times and in the bad times. We all have different buckets in our lives that need to be filled and our friendship bucket is just as big, if not bigger than our relationship bucket. Just like […]

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A friendship should be like a marriage; that person should love you through thick and thin, in the good times and in the bad times. We all have different buckets in our lives that need to be filled and our friendship bucket is just as big, if not bigger than our relationship bucket.

Just like you are not always going to pick the right guy, you are not always going to pick the right girl friend either. It is important to be aware of the signs that she is just not that in to you. We long for female interaction because we speak the same language and we fight the same battles. It is girl code: we just get each other.

You may love her because you have things in common like your style, your job, or you run in the same crowd.  But, just because you have something in common does not mean she is the one for you. Surface friends are the ones who are always going to leave you disappointed. True friends are dependable, loyal, trustworthy, compassionate, and always a good time.

Surface friends aren?t for you, and we have six reasons that is all she is.

She Makes Excuses

There is always something. Whether she forgot that she had another engagement, she has a big proposal at work tomorrow, or she forgot that she had to help her mom with something at the house, she always has a reason for leaving early or cancelling plans. If you find that you are always clearing your schedule for her but she can barely seem to fit you into hers, you should take a deeper look at your friendship. We make time for the things that are important to us, and true friends always make time for each other.

She Is Always in Competition

Competitive friends do not like to see other people doing anything better or different than they are doing, including you. This friend will constantly make subtle remarks about other people?s progression and quickly change the subject when you want to share something that is going well in your life. Friendship is not the place for competition. True friends will celebrate the big and the small wins with you, while surface friends will try to take your stage.

She Gossips

Gossipers have a clever way of gaining your trust by sharing everyone else?s business with you. Don?t be fooled by this friend, she will be the first to go tell your business to everyone else. This friend will always be nice to your face and make you feel like she is in your corner when really she is trying to get information out of you so that she can use later to make herself feel better. True friends only speak positive of you, regardless of if you are around or not.

She Drags You Down

This is the friend who always has something negative to say. She will be the first to share her opinion and the last to be accountable for the things she does. This friend will tug on your heart strings to make you feel sorry for her and her situation, and also make you feel guilty when things are going well for you. She will make you feel obligated to make her life better, when in turn she is only going to suck the life out of you. True friends motivate, inspire, and lift each other up.

It Is Always About Her

Every time you try to throw in something that is going on in your life she nods her head and then quickly changes the subject back to her. This friend does not have the capacity to think about anyone besides herself. She will make you feel like it is an honor to be her friend because everything in her world is so great. There are two people in a friendship, you are equally as important. A true friend takes the time to listen to what is going on with you, and she genuinely cares.

You Cannot Trust Her

This is the friend you are afraid to share anything with because she is going to judge or criticize you. You also do not know who she is going to run and tell. When you are not able to have open and honest conversations with a friend, that person is not really a friend. If you question whether she would have your back when your name is brought up and you are not around, she is just a surface friend. You can share you deepest darkest secrets with your true friend and know that it would never leave the room.

Surface friends feel good in the moment because there is something intriguing about them, but when you need them most they are no where to be found. Friendship should be saved for those who add value to your life, and inspire you to be a better person. When you keep your friendship bar high you will find that you are happier and that you become a better friend yourself.

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A friendship should be like a marriage; that person should love you through thick and thin, in the good times and in the bad times. We all have different buckets in our lives that need to be filled and our friendship bucket is just as big, if not bigger than our relationship bucket. Just like […]

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A friendship should be like a marriage; that person should love you through thick and thin, in the good times and in the bad times. We all have different buckets in our lives that need to be filled and our friendship bucket is just as big, if not bigger than our relationship bucket.

Just like you are not always going to pick the right guy, you are not always going to pick the right girl friend either. It is important to be aware of the signs that she is just not that in to you. We long for female interaction because we speak the same language and we fight the same battles. It is girl code: we just get each other.

You may love her because you have things in common like your style, your job, or you run in the same crowd.  But, just because you have something in common does not mean she is the one for you. Surface friends are the ones who are always going to leave you disappointed. True friends are dependable, loyal, trustworthy, compassionate, and always a good time.

Surface friends aren?t for you, and we have six reasons that is all she is.

She Makes Excuses

There is always something. Whether she forgot that she had another engagement, she has a big proposal at work tomorrow, or she forgot that she had to help her mom with something at the house, she always has a reason for leaving early or cancelling plans. If you find that you are always clearing your schedule for her but she can barely seem to fit you into hers, you should take a deeper look at your friendship. We make time for the things that are important to us, and true friends always make time for each other.

She Is Always in Competition

Competitive friends do not like to see other people doing anything better or different than they are doing, including you. This friend will constantly make subtle remarks about other people?s progression and quickly change the subject when you want to share something that is going well in your life. Friendship is not the place for competition. True friends will celebrate the big and the small wins with you, while surface friends will try to take your stage.

She Gossips

Gossipers have a clever way of gaining your trust by sharing everyone else?s business with you. Don?t be fooled by this friend, she will be the first to go tell your business to everyone else. This friend will always be nice to your face and make you feel like she is in your corner when really she is trying to get information out of you so that she can use later to make herself feel better. True friends only speak positive of you, regardless of if you are around or not.

She Drags You Down

This is the friend who always has something negative to say. She will be the first to share her opinion and the last to be accountable for the things she does. This friend will tug on your heart strings to make you feel sorry for her and her situation, and also make you feel guilty when things are going well for you. She will make you feel obligated to make her life better, when in turn she is only going to suck the life out of you. True friends motivate, inspire, and lift each other up.

It Is Always About Her

Every time you try to throw in something that is going on in your life she nods her head and then quickly changes the subject back to her. This friend does not have the capacity to think about anyone besides herself. She will make you feel like it is an honor to be her friend because everything in her world is so great. There are two people in a friendship, you are equally as important. A true friend takes the time to listen to what is going on with you, and she genuinely cares.

You Cannot Trust Her

This is the friend you are afraid to share anything with because she is going to judge or criticize you. You also do not know who she is going to run and tell. When you are not able to have open and honest conversations with a friend, that person is not really a friend. If you question whether she would have your back when your name is brought up and you are not around, she is just a surface friend. You can share you deepest darkest secrets with your true friend and know that it would never leave the room.

Surface friends feel good in the moment because there is something intriguing about them, but when you need them most they are no where to be found. Friendship should be saved for those who add value to your life, and inspire you to be a better person. When you keep your friendship bar high you will find that you are happier and that you become a better friend yourself.

The post Six Reasons She Is Just a Surface Friend appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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There are many things to consider when you make the decision to date a man who is recently divorced. Probably the first is whether or not you are ready to deal with the issues that are involved. You alone know yourself and your heart, and you have to decide whether or not this is something […]

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There are many things to consider when you make the decision to date a man who is recently divorced. Probably the first is whether or not you are ready to deal with the issues that are involved. You alone know yourself and your heart, and you have to decide whether or not this is something you are ready to take on.

Understand the implications

Whether the divorce was an ugly one or not, there are emotional issues he needs to deal with. Though we all heal at different rates, it?s important to remember that he may still have fresh wounds and will need time and space to deal with that whether it?s apparent or not.

Related: Meet German Divorced Men

On the surface he may seem carefree and happy to be out of the marriage, but remember that men show feelings and emotions differently than women do. Also, talking about those feelings and emotions may not be something he?s all about. Think Venus vs. Mars here. Whether he puts on a brave face or not, expect that he?s still trying to make sense of his world which very definitely could include where you fit into it.

There?s also the issue of the ex-wife. His feelings toward her maybe mixed and confusing. He may habor animosity while struggling with feelings of anger, failure, or even guilt. He needs to recreate his world without her. This doesn?t mean he still wants her in it. It just means that he needs to adjust how he lives his life. He needs to get his feet under him.

If there are children involved, there will still be ties that will obviously remain for a lifetime. This, of course, presents a whole other set of issues he needs to deal with. How to father his children in this new situation, how to co-parent with someone he?s no longer married to and custody arrangements are just the tip of the iceberg and are, honestly, probably best discussed in their own regard.

What it means for you

First of all, you need to go into this with your eyes wide open. Don?t delude yourself into thinking it?s going to be a cakewalk regardless of outward appearances.  There are a variety of situations you will need to try to be prepared for.

Related: Meet Canadian Divorced Men

Probably first and foremost, remember that there may be times when he space to work through his feelings. He may pull away or cling depending both on the situation and how he typically processes his issues. We all handle stress and issues in our own way. Some people want to talk, some withdraw, some drink, and some get angry among other things. Though it may be difficult, you have to figure out how you are going to deal with what he?s dealing with. It can be very challenging not to take things personally whether they actually involve you or not.

If you yourself are divorced, you know that he may be, at times, moody and depressed. That?s really as it should be but, at the same time, don?t sacrifice yourself. You need to take care of you. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential. Letting him use you as an emotional punching bag or playing fast and loose with your feelings isn?t going to do either one of you any good. Remember, if you are not making sure that your needs are met, no one else is going to either.

Related: Meet American Divorced Men

You owe it to him, and to yourself, to be honest and open about your feelings, expectations, and intentions. Understand that he may be questioning whether he can even nurture a successful, healthy relationship. Whether he shows it or not, he is vulnerable and open to being hurt again. Are you willing, or even able, to take on that responsibility?

Are you really up for the challenge?

This is really what it all boils down to. Can you do this? As I said to begin with, you know yourself and your heart better than anyone else. Only you know if you are emotionally able to date a recently divorced man.

You are going to need to be completely honest with yourself here as well as with him. If something crosses your boundaries, makes you uncomfortable, or hurts you, you need to let him know. While his feelings may be very tender, yours are not inconsequential. Don?t sacrifice them for his.

Related: Meet Australian Divorced Men

Though he needs to deal with and process this change in his life, you need to figure out if the way he handles you and your relationship is part of the transisiton or a part of who he is. That being said, he needs to be true to his heart and you to yours. You may need to be prepared to let him go both for his sake and for your own.

The post Dating the Recently Divorced Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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There are many things to consider when you make the decision to date a man who is recently divorced. Probably the first is whether or not you are ready to deal with the issues that are involved. You alone know yourself and your heart, and you have to decide whether or not this is something […]

The post Dating the Recently Divorced Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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There are many things to consider when you make the decision to date a man who is recently divorced. Probably the first is whether or not you are ready to deal with the issues that are involved. You alone know yourself and your heart, and you have to decide whether or not this is something you are ready to take on.

Understand the implications

Whether the divorce was an ugly one or not, there are emotional issues he needs to deal with. Though we all heal at different rates, it?s important to remember that he may still have fresh wounds and will need time and space to deal with that whether it?s apparent or not.

Related: Meet German Divorced Men

On the surface he may seem carefree and happy to be out of the marriage, but remember that men show feelings and emotions differently than women do. Also, talking about those feelings and emotions may not be something he?s all about. Think Venus vs. Mars here. Whether he puts on a brave face or not, expect that he?s still trying to make sense of his world which very definitely could include where you fit into it.

There?s also the issue of the ex-wife. His feelings toward her maybe mixed and confusing. He may habor animosity while struggling with feelings of anger, failure, or even guilt. He needs to recreate his world without her. This doesn?t mean he still wants her in it. It just means that he needs to adjust how he lives his life. He needs to get his feet under him.

If there are children involved, there will still be ties that will obviously remain for a lifetime. This, of course, presents a whole other set of issues he needs to deal with. How to father his children in this new situation, how to co-parent with someone he?s no longer married to and custody arrangements are just the tip of the iceberg and are, honestly, probably best discussed in their own regard.

What it means for you

First of all, you need to go into this with your eyes wide open. Don?t delude yourself into thinking it?s going to be a cakewalk regardless of outward appearances.  There are a variety of situations you will need to try to be prepared for.

Related: Meet Canadian Divorced Men

Probably first and foremost, remember that there may be times when he space to work through his feelings. He may pull away or cling depending both on the situation and how he typically processes his issues. We all handle stress and issues in our own way. Some people want to talk, some withdraw, some drink, and some get angry among other things. Though it may be difficult, you have to figure out how you are going to deal with what he?s dealing with. It can be very challenging not to take things personally whether they actually involve you or not.

If you yourself are divorced, you know that he may be, at times, moody and depressed. That?s really as it should be but, at the same time, don?t sacrifice yourself. You need to take care of you. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential. Letting him use you as an emotional punching bag or playing fast and loose with your feelings isn?t going to do either one of you any good. Remember, if you are not making sure that your needs are met, no one else is going to either.

Related: Meet American Divorced Men

You owe it to him, and to yourself, to be honest and open about your feelings, expectations, and intentions. Understand that he may be questioning whether he can even nurture a successful, healthy relationship. Whether he shows it or not, he is vulnerable and open to being hurt again. Are you willing, or even able, to take on that responsibility?

Are you really up for the challenge?

This is really what it all boils down to. Can you do this? As I said to begin with, you know yourself and your heart better than anyone else. Only you know if you are emotionally able to date a recently divorced man.

You are going to need to be completely honest with yourself here as well as with him. If something crosses your boundaries, makes you uncomfortable, or hurts you, you need to let him know. While his feelings may be very tender, yours are not inconsequential. Don?t sacrifice them for his.

Related: Meet Australian Divorced Men

Though he needs to deal with and process this change in his life, you need to figure out if the way he handles you and your relationship is part of the transisiton or a part of who he is. That being said, he needs to be true to his heart and you to yours. You may need to be prepared to let him go both for his sake and for your own.

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While I talk a lot about dating on this site, the fact of the matter is that I get a ton of questions from busy professionals and entrepreneurs on how to sustain a healthy relationship with a woman. Remember, these are all very successful guys who excel at everything they do and who truly love […]

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While I talk a lot about dating on this site, the fact of the matter is that I get a ton of questions from busy professionals and entrepreneurs on how to sustain a healthy relationship with a woman. Remember, these are all very successful guys who excel at everything they do and who truly love the women in their lives. They only need to find out what they are doing wrong, and then learn how to correct it. And nine times out of ten, they are unintentionally making one of the following five mistakes below, or even a few.

1. Communication.

This one is the most important and the reason why most married couples end up in divorce court. When partners forget how to listen and understand each other, the results can be heart-breaking and devastating. The next time your woman wants to talk, make it a point to give her your full attention. We all know how much you enjoy your football and other sports, but they aren?t going to be there to show you love when you?re feeling lonely and depressed due to being single. So don?t fake giving her your full attention, because she will know and shut the television off. Listen to what she has to say without interrupting her, and try to see her point of view. If you don?t understand something she said, ask her to clarify for you. If she needs to blow off a little steam by releasing some anger and frustration, let her. Sometimes a person needs to vent before they are able to sit down and have a peaceful and productive conversation. But above all, let her know that what she?s saying is important, and offer some ideas on how the two of you can work things out.

2. Be faithful.

Yes I know! You both just got into an argument and you?re not getting along ? but that?s no excuse to cheat on her. Are we still in elementary school here? Grow up already. Cheating is not the answer. You might not realize it, but every time you look into her eyes, all you?re going to be able to think about is the wrong you?ve done to her. The guilt is going to eat away at you until you?re not able to take it anymore. And then you?re going to have to tell her, and risk losing her forever. If you feel like you can?t be faithful, then tell her ahead of time so she can decide whether or not she wants to stay with you and deal with it, or leave. I must warn you: most women will leave. Still, with all the diseases going around today, it?s only right to let her know in order to protect her health.

3. Reliability is a must.

Sometimes guys make promises they can?t keep because they truly love their woman. In their minds, they believe when making the promise that they would be able to keep it. The problem is that when we make promises, it?s more important to her than we realize. When we break them, it causes her to lose all trust in us. So, when you make a promise, keep it. And if you?re guilty of breaking promises, start keeping them. This will cause her to gain trust in you again and strengthen your relationship with her dramatically.

4. Quality time.

Due to having to juggle careers with caring for their children, couples today have less opportunity to spend quality time together. It?s important to set up a night when you can both enjoy a romantic meal together and a movie without the hassle of bringing the children along. And if you can both take a vacation together, even better. If a vacation is impossible, even spending a night together in a hotel can be a great break from the daily stress of taking care of household duties. Plus, staying in a hotel gives the feeling of being on a vacation, even if it?s in the same city.

5. Remember important occasions.

By remembering important dates that she finds memorable such as birthdays and anniversaries, you?re showing her that those special moments you spend with her are very important to you, too. Write them down or put them in your cell phone calendar if you have to ? but just don?t forget these special dates.

Hopefully, you will follow these helpful tips in order to keep your relationship with that special woman alive and well. And if you need any more tips or advice, just leave a comment and I?ll be sure to reply. And don?t forget to subscribe so that you will not miss any future articles.

The post How To Keep A Woman : Major Mistakes To Avoid appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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While I talk a lot about dating on this site, the fact of the matter is that I get a ton of questions from busy professionals and entrepreneurs on how to sustain a healthy relationship with a woman. Remember, these are all very successful guys who excel at everything they do and who truly love […]

The post How To Keep A Woman : Major Mistakes To Avoid appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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While I talk a lot about dating on this site, the fact of the matter is that I get a ton of questions from busy professionals and entrepreneurs on how to sustain a healthy relationship with a woman. Remember, these are all very successful guys who excel at everything they do and who truly love the women in their lives. They only need to find out what they are doing wrong, and then learn how to correct it. And nine times out of ten, they are unintentionally making one of the following five mistakes below, or even a few.

1. Communication.

This one is the most important and the reason why most married couples end up in divorce court. When partners forget how to listen and understand each other, the results can be heart-breaking and devastating. The next time your woman wants to talk, make it a point to give her your full attention. We all know how much you enjoy your football and other sports, but they aren?t going to be there to show you love when you?re feeling lonely and depressed due to being single. So don?t fake giving her your full attention, because she will know and shut the television off. Listen to what she has to say without interrupting her, and try to see her point of view. If you don?t understand something she said, ask her to clarify for you. If she needs to blow off a little steam by releasing some anger and frustration, let her. Sometimes a person needs to vent before they are able to sit down and have a peaceful and productive conversation. But above all, let her know that what she?s saying is important, and offer some ideas on how the two of you can work things out.

2. Be faithful.

Yes I know! You both just got into an argument and you?re not getting along ? but that?s no excuse to cheat on her. Are we still in elementary school here? Grow up already. Cheating is not the answer. You might not realize it, but every time you look into her eyes, all you?re going to be able to think about is the wrong you?ve done to her. The guilt is going to eat away at you until you?re not able to take it anymore. And then you?re going to have to tell her, and risk losing her forever. If you feel like you can?t be faithful, then tell her ahead of time so she can decide whether or not she wants to stay with you and deal with it, or leave. I must warn you: most women will leave. Still, with all the diseases going around today, it?s only right to let her know in order to protect her health.

3. Reliability is a must.

Sometimes guys make promises they can?t keep because they truly love their woman. In their minds, they believe when making the promise that they would be able to keep it. The problem is that when we make promises, it?s more important to her than we realize. When we break them, it causes her to lose all trust in us. So, when you make a promise, keep it. And if you?re guilty of breaking promises, start keeping them. This will cause her to gain trust in you again and strengthen your relationship with her dramatically.

4. Quality time.

Due to having to juggle careers with caring for their children, couples today have less opportunity to spend quality time together. It?s important to set up a night when you can both enjoy a romantic meal together and a movie without the hassle of bringing the children along. And if you can both take a vacation together, even better. If a vacation is impossible, even spending a night together in a hotel can be a great break from the daily stress of taking care of household duties. Plus, staying in a hotel gives the feeling of being on a vacation, even if it?s in the same city.

5. Remember important occasions.

By remembering important dates that she finds memorable such as birthdays and anniversaries, you?re showing her that those special moments you spend with her are very important to you, too. Write them down or put them in your cell phone calendar if you have to ? but just don?t forget these special dates.

Hopefully, you will follow these helpful tips in order to keep your relationship with that special woman alive and well. And if you need any more tips or advice, just leave a comment and I?ll be sure to reply. And don?t forget to subscribe so that you will not miss any future articles.

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Negative people, they?re all around us. They can be your next door neighbor or the guy who works in the cubicle next to yours. It can be your customers or even the people you live with. These people are out to get you. You never know when they are lurking or hiding around the corner […]

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Negative people, they?re all around us. They can be your next door neighbor or the guy who works in the cubicle next to yours. It can be your customers or even the people you live with. These people are out to get you. You never know when they are lurking or hiding around the corner waiting patiently to zap you with their negativity ray gun, destroying all your hopes and dreams.

People like this wake up in the morning miserable because they have nothing to be excited about. Many times they are unemployed, or if they do have a job, they hate it with all their heart because it?s really not the type of job that they would have chosen in the first place. Most of the time, they are either single or in a marriage that?s on the rocks because their significant others can?t stand to be around them. Wherever they go, people scatter away from them like bugs do when the lights go on, because they project misery. Like the Great Plague, these miserable people go around infecting otherwise happy people. The newly infected people then go out and do the same to other positive people. It?s a vicious, negative cycle that keeps repeating itself until we have a bunch of negative clones with prune faces who are an empty shell of their formerly happy selves.

It?s not that these people can?t be happy. The problem is that they either listen to other people who don?t have the work ethic and motivation to make their dreams come true, or just don?t have the confidence to believe that anything is possible if you really put the time and effort into making it work. Whenever you tell them about something that you plan to do that has any risks involved but high rewards, they will usually try everything they can to discourage you to give up. They get jealous whenever you show any passion towards a new venture or actually succeed in accomplishing your goals.

The jealousy comes from them not having the courage to break out of their comfortable cycle that they?ve crawled into, so whenever you show any confidence, they feel bad about not being the same. But their problems don?t stop there. It?s gets more complex. Whenever these negative people fail, it?s never their fault, but rather everybody else?s. If they don?t get hired for the job that they want, it?s the companies fault for hiring the weasel instead. A woman turns them down for a date, and it must be because all women prefer jerks or inferior guys. Excuses flow from these people like Niagara Falls right after all the snow has melted, and is at full power.

Stay away from these people at all costs. Do like many businessmen do when they are trying to start a new business or expand their current one. Surround yourself with positive people who are more successful then you are so that you can learn from them and use that knowledge to help you accomplish all your hopes and dreams. Whenever you associate yourself with other people, it doesn?t matter if it?s a business venture, friendship or dating, you are still creating a network of people to help you live a meaningful and fulfilling life. Positive people will help lift you towards the stars while negative people will drag you down like an anchor in the ocean.

There are times when it will be impossible to dump a negative person like a bad habit even when you want to. The negative person may be a family member, related to a best friend or a co-worker. In those cases you, have no choice but to live with them, but there are still a few things you can do to avoid their negativity.

How to Get Rid of Negative People in 3 Steps

Step 1.

If you run into negative people you don?t know yet, get away from them as soon as possible. You will recognize them by their always dour mood and constant complaints about everything and anything such as work, family, friends, etc.

Step 2.

For people who you can?t avoid such as family and co-workers, make sure you don?t tell them about any personal or business goals you plan on pursuing. Talk to other family members or friends who have a more supportive, positive attitude.

Step 3.

Sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep negative people from finding out what your plans are, they still seem to sniff your goals out like a hound dog. In scenerios like this, just remember that the most negative people that you run into are usually the ones who have accomplished the least in their lives. They usually sit around talking about the dream houses, sports cars, and vacations that they wish they had but never will. Just remember that you should never listen to anybody who is less successful than you are, because if they knew so much, why aren?t they doing better than they are?

Remember that no matter how hard you try, it will always be impoosible to avoid negative people completely, but whatever you do, don?t let them get to you and suck the life out of you. What matters the most is how you feel about yourself deep down inside. If you truly have respect, confidence and faith in yourself, then no matter how hard you try, nobody or nothing will ever be able to stop you. Imagine if Tim Berners-Lee hadn?t invented the Internet or Bill Gates, Microsoft. Most likely nobody would have known what a website was, and right now you wouldn?t be reading this awesome site, which would be the greatest tragedy ever. Berners-Lee and Gates ignored all the negative people, fought against all odds and accomplished more than anybody could have ever imagined. Do the same and who knows, maybe you can change the world one day for the better, too. So stay positive and come back soon and tell me all about your successes.

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Negative people, they?re all around us. They can be your next door neighbor or the guy who works in the cubicle next to yours. It can be your customers or even the people you live with. These people are out to get you. You never know when they are lurking or hiding around the corner […]

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Negative people, they?re all around us. They can be your next door neighbor or the guy who works in the cubicle next to yours. It can be your customers or even the people you live with. These people are out to get you. You never know when they are lurking or hiding around the corner waiting patiently to zap you with their negativity ray gun, destroying all your hopes and dreams.

People like this wake up in the morning miserable because they have nothing to be excited about. Many times they are unemployed, or if they do have a job, they hate it with all their heart because it?s really not the type of job that they would have chosen in the first place. Most of the time, they are either single or in a marriage that?s on the rocks because their significant others can?t stand to be around them. Wherever they go, people scatter away from them like bugs do when the lights go on, because they project misery. Like the Great Plague, these miserable people go around infecting otherwise happy people. The newly infected people then go out and do the same to other positive people. It?s a vicious, negative cycle that keeps repeating itself until we have a bunch of negative clones with prune faces who are an empty shell of their formerly happy selves.

It?s not that these people can?t be happy. The problem is that they either listen to other people who don?t have the work ethic and motivation to make their dreams come true, or just don?t have the confidence to believe that anything is possible if you really put the time and effort into making it work. Whenever you tell them about something that you plan to do that has any risks involved but high rewards, they will usually try everything they can to discourage you to give up. They get jealous whenever you show any passion towards a new venture or actually succeed in accomplishing your goals.

The jealousy comes from them not having the courage to break out of their comfortable cycle that they?ve crawled into, so whenever you show any confidence, they feel bad about not being the same. But their problems don?t stop there. It?s gets more complex. Whenever these negative people fail, it?s never their fault, but rather everybody else?s. If they don?t get hired for the job that they want, it?s the companies fault for hiring the weasel instead. A woman turns them down for a date, and it must be because all women prefer jerks or inferior guys. Excuses flow from these people like Niagara Falls right after all the snow has melted, and is at full power.

Stay away from these people at all costs. Do like many businessmen do when they are trying to start a new business or expand their current one. Surround yourself with positive people who are more successful then you are so that you can learn from them and use that knowledge to help you accomplish all your hopes and dreams. Whenever you associate yourself with other people, it doesn?t matter if it?s a business venture, friendship or dating, you are still creating a network of people to help you live a meaningful and fulfilling life. Positive people will help lift you towards the stars while negative people will drag you down like an anchor in the ocean.

There are times when it will be impossible to dump a negative person like a bad habit even when you want to. The negative person may be a family member, related to a best friend or a co-worker. In those cases you, have no choice but to live with them, but there are still a few things you can do to avoid their negativity.

How to Get Rid of Negative People in 3 Steps

Step 1.

If you run into negative people you don?t know yet, get away from them as soon as possible. You will recognize them by their always dour mood and constant complaints about everything and anything such as work, family, friends, etc.

Step 2.

For people who you can?t avoid such as family and co-workers, make sure you don?t tell them about any personal or business goals you plan on pursuing. Talk to other family members or friends who have a more supportive, positive attitude.

Step 3.

Sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep negative people from finding out what your plans are, they still seem to sniff your goals out like a hound dog. In scenerios like this, just remember that the most negative people that you run into are usually the ones who have accomplished the least in their lives. They usually sit around talking about the dream houses, sports cars, and vacations that they wish they had but never will. Just remember that you should never listen to anybody who is less successful than you are, because if they knew so much, why aren?t they doing better than they are?

Remember that no matter how hard you try, it will always be impoosible to avoid negative people completely, but whatever you do, don?t let them get to you and suck the life out of you. What matters the most is how you feel about yourself deep down inside. If you truly have respect, confidence and faith in yourself, then no matter how hard you try, nobody or nothing will ever be able to stop you. Imagine if Tim Berners-Lee hadn?t invented the Internet or Bill Gates, Microsoft. Most likely nobody would have known what a website was, and right now you wouldn?t be reading this awesome site, which would be the greatest tragedy ever. Berners-Lee and Gates ignored all the negative people, fought against all odds and accomplished more than anybody could have ever imagined. Do the same and who knows, maybe you can change the world one day for the better, too. So stay positive and come back soon and tell me all about your successes.

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Are older women really more desperate? Are older men really more attractive? Well I just read in an recent Daily Telegraph paper that how hot we really ?think? we are is relative to our age. Now that statement may seem really obvious. But let me explain. Now I sure all the young girlies who are […]

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Are older women really more desperate?

Are older men really more attractive?

Well I just read in an recent Daily Telegraph paper that how hot we really ?think? we are is relative to our age.

Now that statement may seem really obvious. But let me explain.

Now I sure all the young girlies who are reading this, while they may have some boy problems really don?t have too much of a shortage of choice.

Then all of a sudden when they grow older and reach the age of 33-34 they start to notice that its that little bit harder to score a guy.

Is that just because guys don?t really go for older women? Is that just because guys don?t like women with more life experience?

What is the reason for this?

Well girls you are going to love these stats.

This is in Australia so the stats may be a little different in the states. But for single women from ages 15-17 there is an oversupply of single men of 10%, peaking at 23% when a single woman reaches the age of 25.

So really all us young girlies thinking we are so hot, irresistible could be very possibly because there is an oversupply of single men out there in the available market. Our Hot Deflation Index is running high.

So all I can say, is if you can?t get a date or any guy interested in you while you are young, then there is probably something you are doing wrong.

Here the Author Bernard Salt states ? What young women may not understand us that their interest of their many suitors might not be because of their gorgeous personalities and their overall hotness, it might be that boys are lonely and desperate?.

In other words, women may be deluded about their actual attractiveness.

Now older women on the other hand who are older than 34 may experience a slowing down in their love life?s and many find it hard to get a good quality guy.

They think it has to do with the fact that their winkles are starting to show, things are starting to stag and maybe things are not as tight as they once used to be. (I?m sure I?ll get to write about it first hand one day).

They think because they are older that they are therefore not as attractive anymore.

But is that really true?

Well you guessed it, by the time single women reach the age of 34 the odds start to go downhill. In fact their ratio exceeds that of the male ratio meaning there are more single men out there as opposed to single women over 34.

Yes the tables turn.

And eventually men in their 40s have very favorable age ratios to single women ? which is probably why a 40 year old single woman is called a spinster and a 40 year old male is called an eligible bachelor.

So what is my advice?

Firstly for women. Score a guy when you are young. If it fails, get back into the market as soon as possible.

Secondly for men. Wait till your 40.

Thirdly remember your really not as attractive as you really think you are.

hehe

Ok Ok seriously.

For women I would have to say, that since you are probably getting approached by a lot of men, be gentle to the guys you are not interested in. Don?t come from a desperate or clingy mindset, statistically there are more guys out there for you then you know what to do with.

Just because you may be attracting a lot of male interest, does not mean you have to reject, humiliate or be really abusive to a guy who you are not interested in. Remember karma is a bitch.

For older women, remember not to be as picky as when you were younger. Realize the facts, that the male pool at your age is not as big.

That does not mean settle for less. But it means you will need to get rid of useless and superficial criteria of what you want in a guy. Certain age, certain job type. At the end of the day remember is how he makes you feel about yourself.

For guys. Realize that when you are young there is a lot of competition out there. Don?t be disheartened and make sure you prepare yourself and have some sort of advantage over your competitors.

Just think ? what would make YOU stand out of a crowd a guys and make a girl interested in you?

For older men. Enjoy the fact that as you age .. you get culturally sexier and your hot deflation index is going through the roof.

And since this was a brilliant article I will let Salt have the last words.

?The best time to get an honest appraisal of your hotness is between age 33 and 38, when the Hot Deflation Index for both genders is less than 110.

The bad news is that the rest of the population must be entirely deluded to their varying degrees about the extent of their attractiveness to the opposite sex?.

Are you deluded about your hotness, attractiveness and irresistibility?

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Are older women really more desperate? Are older men really more attractive? Well I just read in an recent Daily Telegraph paper that how hot we really ?think? we are is relative to our age. Now that statement may seem really obvious. But let me explain. Now I sure all the young girlies who are […]

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" ["atom_content"]=> string(5528) "

Are older women really more desperate?

Are older men really more attractive?

Well I just read in an recent Daily Telegraph paper that how hot we really ?think? we are is relative to our age.

Now that statement may seem really obvious. But let me explain.

Now I sure all the young girlies who are reading this, while they may have some boy problems really don?t have too much of a shortage of choice.

Then all of a sudden when they grow older and reach the age of 33-34 they start to notice that its that little bit harder to score a guy.

Is that just because guys don?t really go for older women? Is that just because guys don?t like women with more life experience?

What is the reason for this?

Well girls you are going to love these stats.

This is in Australia so the stats may be a little different in the states. But for single women from ages 15-17 there is an oversupply of single men of 10%, peaking at 23% when a single woman reaches the age of 25.

So really all us young girlies thinking we are so hot, irresistible could be very possibly because there is an oversupply of single men out there in the available market. Our Hot Deflation Index is running high.

So all I can say, is if you can?t get a date or any guy interested in you while you are young, then there is probably something you are doing wrong.

Here the Author Bernard Salt states ? What young women may not understand us that their interest of their many suitors might not be because of their gorgeous personalities and their overall hotness, it might be that boys are lonely and desperate?.

In other words, women may be deluded about their actual attractiveness.

Now older women on the other hand who are older than 34 may experience a slowing down in their love life?s and many find it hard to get a good quality guy.

They think it has to do with the fact that their winkles are starting to show, things are starting to stag and maybe things are not as tight as they once used to be. (I?m sure I?ll get to write about it first hand one day).

They think because they are older that they are therefore not as attractive anymore.

But is that really true?

Well you guessed it, by the time single women reach the age of 34 the odds start to go downhill. In fact their ratio exceeds that of the male ratio meaning there are more single men out there as opposed to single women over 34.

Yes the tables turn.

And eventually men in their 40s have very favorable age ratios to single women ? which is probably why a 40 year old single woman is called a spinster and a 40 year old male is called an eligible bachelor.

So what is my advice?

Firstly for women. Score a guy when you are young. If it fails, get back into the market as soon as possible.

Secondly for men. Wait till your 40.

Thirdly remember your really not as attractive as you really think you are.

hehe

Ok Ok seriously.

For women I would have to say, that since you are probably getting approached by a lot of men, be gentle to the guys you are not interested in. Don?t come from a desperate or clingy mindset, statistically there are more guys out there for you then you know what to do with.

Just because you may be attracting a lot of male interest, does not mean you have to reject, humiliate or be really abusive to a guy who you are not interested in. Remember karma is a bitch.

For older women, remember not to be as picky as when you were younger. Realize the facts, that the male pool at your age is not as big.

That does not mean settle for less. But it means you will need to get rid of useless and superficial criteria of what you want in a guy. Certain age, certain job type. At the end of the day remember is how he makes you feel about yourself.

For guys. Realize that when you are young there is a lot of competition out there. Don?t be disheartened and make sure you prepare yourself and have some sort of advantage over your competitors.

Just think ? what would make YOU stand out of a crowd a guys and make a girl interested in you?

For older men. Enjoy the fact that as you age .. you get culturally sexier and your hot deflation index is going through the roof.

And since this was a brilliant article I will let Salt have the last words.

?The best time to get an honest appraisal of your hotness is between age 33 and 38, when the Hot Deflation Index for both genders is less than 110.

The bad news is that the rest of the population must be entirely deluded to their varying degrees about the extent of their attractiveness to the opposite sex?.

Are you deluded about your hotness, attractiveness and irresistibility?

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It?s noticeable when a man has little problem attracting a desirable woman, yet witnesses a barrage of challenges in keeping her interested and happy. This can be devastating and (not to mention) baffling. It doesn?t make sense, unless one becomes aware of the difference between triggering attraction and developing a relationship. I?m drawn back to […]

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It?s noticeable when a man has little problem attracting a desirable woman, yet witnesses a barrage of challenges in keeping her interested and happy. This can be devastating and (not to mention) baffling.

It doesn?t make sense, unless one becomes aware of the difference between triggering attraction and developing a relationship.

I?m drawn back to a memory of reading David Deangelo?s ?Double Your Dating? which exposed me to a myriad of theories and skills to attract a woman. Yet, all he teaches about ?keeping? a woman interested is boiled down to one line. That being, ?once you get a woman, keep doing whatever you are doing.? And it?s not nearly as helpful or truthful as one might first think.

If this was the truth then pick up artists or men who learn about seducing and attracting women, would all have a great relationship with a woman they truly desired. Instead, they end up dodging from woman to woman, temporarily trying to satisfy an insatiable need. You could call it skimming the surface as these men are cautious and want to pull the plug before it gets too deep. Anything deeper will only open a whole can of worms, which for the moment do not want to be uncovered.

Therefore, it?s better to focus on the next woman, as she will be dazzled by her attraction for him.

That is, until she gets to know him better. That?s what he is terrified of the most. The worst part, is that he can?t admit this to himself. So, he?ll run, he?ll get angry, or he?ll absorb himself in mindless sex. But all of this resembles the analogy of being hungry and using junk food to rid the hunger; a hunger only a good home cooked meal could satisfy. So, there are two things that I want to share with you.

The first is that some pickup artists actually have NO INTENTION of finding one good woman.

Eventually, they will but many feel the urge to rebuild their self esteem and ego first. This, may be due to it being severely damaged in the past.

Therefore, the woman he is with now is repaying the debts of all the? other? women who really shattered his self esteem.

I get it and I understand that it is all a process.

The second category is for men who simply don?t have to skill set to attract women. Maybe there wasn?t a strong male figure who they could really model. Maybe no one taught them to: cultivate their own assertiveness, develop into being a man, or give them those gems about women that only a lifetime of experience could teach.

The first step in any kind of personal growth experience is the awareness in one?s ability to change. A mixture of self responsibility, courage, and the willingness to learn are all components required in creating a life that ?designed? with purpose. Each and every man has his own timing to come to this conclusion. Some of you reading this post are already here, others are not. I write for both of you. For the men that have reached this awareness. And for the men who are not ready yet, I look to provide a beacon of hope which will guide you back here when timing permits.

Quickly Gaining Trust vs. Deepening Trust

When you first interact with a woman, you must act and behave in certain ways which quickly gain rapport and trust, from: asking her questions, touching her at the right times and places, or communicating that you in fact are a real person (not some guy just trying to pick her up at a club). The ways to develop rapport are lengthy and endless. Let?s not forget that it actually does work!

When, you start building a relationship with a woman she?ll want to experience depth with you. She?ll want to know all the different sides to you. Additionally, she?ll want to know that she can trust you when: things get tough, you want to zone out, or you are under pressure. She could do this in a positive or a negative way. For example, you could notice an increase in her curiosity about your personal life and investigate how you respond to certain situations in the past. Alternatively, she could pick a fight with you and see how you respond. One is more passive and the other more active. She may even do both to see if how you respond in the past (what you told her) correlates with how you responded with her in the present moment. She?ll expect the truth from you and she?ll be looking for congruence in what you tell her with how you act. Additionally, she wants to see this in EVERY AREA of your life. This is of course VERY easy to do, if you have developed your life into an authentic and real experience. Problems occur when you past projections of yourself are not congruent with your current projections of yourself.

The more congruence she can see in your words and actions throughout the different dating stages, the more it will allow her to be more: open, receptive, appreciative, feminine, and authentic with you.

Furthermore, the more she feels like she can reveal all aspects of herself to you, the more she will trust you. So, when you start seeing your woman acting a little moody or not so much herself, this is an opportunity for you to step up and show her that you CAN HANDLE all the different aspects of her. The good and the bad.

No one wants to be liked or loved only when they are on good behavior. As human beings, we have the innate need to be loved ?unconditionally?.

Therefore, she will test to see if you can still love and appreciate her, even though she is not herself or upset about something. If you can: step up, empathize with her, change her state, and show her that you still accept her. Then she will feel: an innate sense of security, love, and trust with you. All of this will cause her to feel a deepening and progressing of the relationship. If you find this hard, then also put yourself in her shoes. When you make a mistake, get angry, or stressed wouldn?t be an amazing experience, if your partner could still love and accept you through it all? Wouldn?t be great if she didn?t hold it against you? Wouldn?t be amazing if she actually thought it was amusing and got you to laugh at yourself too? Wouldn?t that be a moment where you could bond and deepen the relationship? Yes, that is what it is about, taking challenges and using them as opportunities to build trust, love, and acceptance between the two of you.

Competition vs. Teamwork

When you first meet a woman there is an underlying battle of the sexes going on. Will she bow to your leadership or overpower you? Will you reveal your assertiveness and stand strong, despite her efforts? Who is the one that is going to give in first? Who is the one that is going to win? That?s why they call it ?the game?, because there are all these little nuances which tally up to the final scoreboard.

So, what happens when you have earned your win? Does the competition still continue? Do you find new and better things to compete with? Well, a little playful competition with each other can help to increase variety and fun in the relationship. But, predominately there must be a shift from the ?I win, you lose? mentality to ?how can we both win?? A shift between ?you and I? to ?team?. I hate to state the obvious, but you have to realise that the person you are in a relationship with is not your enemy. They are your friend. And you are both in the same boat. Furthermore, the boat gets destroyed when you are trying to bomb your own ship.

Bombing your own ship involves hurting your partner by: ignoring them, giving them the silent treatment, getting angry at them, and deluding yourself into thinking that you are not hurting yourself and the relationship in the process.

This doesn?t mean that you are two separate people molding into one, far from it. You must be able to: retain, nurture, and cultivate yourself in this process.

A relationship is always two ?complete? and ?whole? individuals coming together to create their own ?private universe?. One which no one else understands except the two of you.

Equally, this private universe must be treated with the uttermost respect. This means that you have the best intentions for yourself and the best intentions for the relationship you are developing. This involves supporting and exploring, rather than attacking one another. Nurturing this private universe involves: emptying the negative, building on the positive, identify and meeting each other?s needs, accepting one another and providing a safe sanctuary in which both of you can come to play and rest. Therefore, the only way to align the both of these is proper communication. Now there are plenty of ways which you can do this, but this must all be based on the correct underlying assumptions. You don?t learn proper communication, for the reason of finding more effective ways to win against your partner.

You learn these methods BECAUSE you understand: you have needs, your partner has needs, and the relationship has needs. Proper communication is the bridge between all of these.

As you can see, developing attraction and building a relationship are two very different things. Attraction is about: gaining trust quickly, asserting yourself, taking the lead, and winning.

There is a difference between applying attraction triggers and being a man that draws this out with his presence. There is a difference between understanding a woman on a high school degree level and knowing her on a PHD level.

A relationship is something that: grows, takes on its own life, and propels you into personal and spiritual development. It is always a vehicle, which will reveal more to yourself than any other area in your life. It will uncover your deepest fears and with your permission free them all from you.

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It?s noticeable when a man has little problem attracting a desirable woman, yet witnesses a barrage of challenges in keeping her interested and happy. This can be devastating and (not to mention) baffling. It doesn?t make sense, unless one becomes aware of the difference between triggering attraction and developing a relationship. I?m drawn back to […]

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It?s noticeable when a man has little problem attracting a desirable woman, yet witnesses a barrage of challenges in keeping her interested and happy. This can be devastating and (not to mention) baffling.

It doesn?t make sense, unless one becomes aware of the difference between triggering attraction and developing a relationship.

I?m drawn back to a memory of reading David Deangelo?s ?Double Your Dating? which exposed me to a myriad of theories and skills to attract a woman. Yet, all he teaches about ?keeping? a woman interested is boiled down to one line. That being, ?once you get a woman, keep doing whatever you are doing.? And it?s not nearly as helpful or truthful as one might first think.

If this was the truth then pick up artists or men who learn about seducing and attracting women, would all have a great relationship with a woman they truly desired. Instead, they end up dodging from woman to woman, temporarily trying to satisfy an insatiable need. You could call it skimming the surface as these men are cautious and want to pull the plug before it gets too deep. Anything deeper will only open a whole can of worms, which for the moment do not want to be uncovered.

Therefore, it?s better to focus on the next woman, as she will be dazzled by her attraction for him.

That is, until she gets to know him better. That?s what he is terrified of the most. The worst part, is that he can?t admit this to himself. So, he?ll run, he?ll get angry, or he?ll absorb himself in mindless sex. But all of this resembles the analogy of being hungry and using junk food to rid the hunger; a hunger only a good home cooked meal could satisfy. So, there are two things that I want to share with you.

The first is that some pickup artists actually have NO INTENTION of finding one good woman.

Eventually, they will but many feel the urge to rebuild their self esteem and ego first. This, may be due to it being severely damaged in the past.

Therefore, the woman he is with now is repaying the debts of all the? other? women who really shattered his self esteem.

I get it and I understand that it is all a process.

The second category is for men who simply don?t have to skill set to attract women. Maybe there wasn?t a strong male figure who they could really model. Maybe no one taught them to: cultivate their own assertiveness, develop into being a man, or give them those gems about women that only a lifetime of experience could teach.

The first step in any kind of personal growth experience is the awareness in one?s ability to change. A mixture of self responsibility, courage, and the willingness to learn are all components required in creating a life that ?designed? with purpose. Each and every man has his own timing to come to this conclusion. Some of you reading this post are already here, others are not. I write for both of you. For the men that have reached this awareness. And for the men who are not ready yet, I look to provide a beacon of hope which will guide you back here when timing permits.

Quickly Gaining Trust vs. Deepening Trust

When you first interact with a woman, you must act and behave in certain ways which quickly gain rapport and trust, from: asking her questions, touching her at the right times and places, or communicating that you in fact are a real person (not some guy just trying to pick her up at a club). The ways to develop rapport are lengthy and endless. Let?s not forget that it actually does work!

When, you start building a relationship with a woman she?ll want to experience depth with you. She?ll want to know all the different sides to you. Additionally, she?ll want to know that she can trust you when: things get tough, you want to zone out, or you are under pressure. She could do this in a positive or a negative way. For example, you could notice an increase in her curiosity about your personal life and investigate how you respond to certain situations in the past. Alternatively, she could pick a fight with you and see how you respond. One is more passive and the other more active. She may even do both to see if how you respond in the past (what you told her) correlates with how you responded with her in the present moment. She?ll expect the truth from you and she?ll be looking for congruence in what you tell her with how you act. Additionally, she wants to see this in EVERY AREA of your life. This is of course VERY easy to do, if you have developed your life into an authentic and real experience. Problems occur when you past projections of yourself are not congruent with your current projections of yourself.

The more congruence she can see in your words and actions throughout the different dating stages, the more it will allow her to be more: open, receptive, appreciative, feminine, and authentic with you.

Furthermore, the more she feels like she can reveal all aspects of herself to you, the more she will trust you. So, when you start seeing your woman acting a little moody or not so much herself, this is an opportunity for you to step up and show her that you CAN HANDLE all the different aspects of her. The good and the bad.

No one wants to be liked or loved only when they are on good behavior. As human beings, we have the innate need to be loved ?unconditionally?.

Therefore, she will test to see if you can still love and appreciate her, even though she is not herself or upset about something. If you can: step up, empathize with her, change her state, and show her that you still accept her. Then she will feel: an innate sense of security, love, and trust with you. All of this will cause her to feel a deepening and progressing of the relationship. If you find this hard, then also put yourself in her shoes. When you make a mistake, get angry, or stressed wouldn?t be an amazing experience, if your partner could still love and accept you through it all? Wouldn?t be great if she didn?t hold it against you? Wouldn?t be amazing if she actually thought it was amusing and got you to laugh at yourself too? Wouldn?t that be a moment where you could bond and deepen the relationship? Yes, that is what it is about, taking challenges and using them as opportunities to build trust, love, and acceptance between the two of you.

Competition vs. Teamwork

When you first meet a woman there is an underlying battle of the sexes going on. Will she bow to your leadership or overpower you? Will you reveal your assertiveness and stand strong, despite her efforts? Who is the one that is going to give in first? Who is the one that is going to win? That?s why they call it ?the game?, because there are all these little nuances which tally up to the final scoreboard.

So, what happens when you have earned your win? Does the competition still continue? Do you find new and better things to compete with? Well, a little playful competition with each other can help to increase variety and fun in the relationship. But, predominately there must be a shift from the ?I win, you lose? mentality to ?how can we both win?? A shift between ?you and I? to ?team?. I hate to state the obvious, but you have to realise that the person you are in a relationship with is not your enemy. They are your friend. And you are both in the same boat. Furthermore, the boat gets destroyed when you are trying to bomb your own ship.

Bombing your own ship involves hurting your partner by: ignoring them, giving them the silent treatment, getting angry at them, and deluding yourself into thinking that you are not hurting yourself and the relationship in the process.

This doesn?t mean that you are two separate people molding into one, far from it. You must be able to: retain, nurture, and cultivate yourself in this process.

A relationship is always two ?complete? and ?whole? individuals coming together to create their own ?private universe?. One which no one else understands except the two of you.

Equally, this private universe must be treated with the uttermost respect. This means that you have the best intentions for yourself and the best intentions for the relationship you are developing. This involves supporting and exploring, rather than attacking one another. Nurturing this private universe involves: emptying the negative, building on the positive, identify and meeting each other?s needs, accepting one another and providing a safe sanctuary in which both of you can come to play and rest. Therefore, the only way to align the both of these is proper communication. Now there are plenty of ways which you can do this, but this must all be based on the correct underlying assumptions. You don?t learn proper communication, for the reason of finding more effective ways to win against your partner.

You learn these methods BECAUSE you understand: you have needs, your partner has needs, and the relationship has needs. Proper communication is the bridge between all of these.

As you can see, developing attraction and building a relationship are two very different things. Attraction is about: gaining trust quickly, asserting yourself, taking the lead, and winning.

There is a difference between applying attraction triggers and being a man that draws this out with his presence. There is a difference between understanding a woman on a high school degree level and knowing her on a PHD level.

A relationship is something that: grows, takes on its own life, and propels you into personal and spiritual development. It is always a vehicle, which will reveal more to yourself than any other area in your life. It will uncover your deepest fears and with your permission free them all from you.

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?Sociopath? is a simple term for describing someone with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). Such people can?t understand the feelings of others and they tend to demonstrate persistent negative behavior without having guilt or remorse. The problem with ASPD is that it?s very difficult to diagnose. Sociopaths are often perceived as very charming and charismatic, which […]

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?Sociopath? is a simple term for describing someone with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). Such people can?t understand the feelings of others and they tend to demonstrate persistent negative behavior without having guilt or remorse. The problem with ASPD is that it?s very difficult to diagnose. Sociopaths are often perceived as very charming and charismatic, which enables them to manipulate people around them.

Sociopaths are definitely not the kind of men to date, so the sooner you identify them, the better. So how to spot a sociopath? That?s what we?ll talk about in this post. Keep reading!

Fast-moving

There are many signs of a sociopath behavior but this one should really make you stop for a minute. A sociopath will typically move too fast in the relationship. You?ve been on one date and he or she has already gotten too far with their feelings? You?ve only known each other for a few months and they ask you to move in together? Whereas it?s quite natural for people to hit it off, it?s not-so-natural to rush in the relationship. If you are feeling that one thing is wrong, it most likely is. It?s not like you?ll get married to someone else if they won?t leave their stuff in your apartment. At the beginning of the relationship, there should be boundaries. So, lesson number one ? beware of the new people who act like they?ve known you for ages.

Overly attentive

If sociopath has chosen you as his or her ?victim?, be sure they will do everything to make you fall for them. They?ll remember every detail from your conversations, they?ll know what you like and dislike, and you might even notice that you have a lot in common. Their opinion will change depending on how you feel about the subject. If he or she has briefly mentioned that they voted for Trump but then say that they are Democratic just like you, this should make you worry. The thing is that sociopaths are pathological liars. It?s a symptom of their psychological condition. Besides, they don?t experience guilt or shame. They will lie to you to get what they want, and they will lie a lot with no remorse.

Overly charming

If you feel that this person is irresistibly charming to the extent that it?s almost unreal, it might be one of the sociopath signs too. Such people have this skill. They can captivate and enchant others with their behavior. They sometimes act like Hollywood movie characters, and they are well aware of their power. Moreover, they do it intentionally and only to impress people that have something they want. Just so you know, if you introduce your new charming boyfriend or girlfriend to your friends and they act completely uninterested, that?s because they actually are. So, if a person is nice to you but awful to other people, and especially if they explain this extreme behavior by simply being stressed, or tired, or triggered by someone ? run away.

A master manipulator

If you feel extremely sorry for the person because life has been so unfair to them, or because they were treated so badly by their awful ex ? beware. Sociopaths are master manipulators. At the beginning of the relationship, they will probably make you want to help them. They?ll make you feel like a hero that can save them. They?ll tell you that you look beautiful when you know it?s not true. And they will promise you the moon and stars at first. They will also want to spend ALL the time with you and isolate you from family and friends. And once they smell the danger (like when you want to go out with your friends alone), they will freak out and do anything to make you feel guilty for even thinking about it.

He/she has no connection with the past

This is also one of the typical sociopath characteristics. You?ve been going out for some time and you still haven?t heard anything about his or her nears and dears. This person never goes out to the parties without you, never calls their friends or travels to visit their parents. They never tell you stories from their life. They probably moved to this city for work and haven?t met anybody yet. And they might not feel like meeting new people because they found you and it feels so good to be together. I?m not saying you should turn on miss Marple mode trying to find out their roots, but don?t be Pollyanna-ish about it. This definitely should make you suspicious.

His/her eyes are giving you creeps

Remember Jack Nicholson gaze in The Shining? If you feel this vibe from a person at least at times, run. Don?t interpret it as something seductive. An intense uninterrupted gaze is, in fact, one of the most obvious sociopathic tendencies. In addition to that, such people come to their ?prey? too close during the conversation, so close it?s actually uncomfortable. This is also a sign of a sociopath. They are completely foreign to proxemics and it?s just another symptom, like a pathological inclination to lying, inability to feel guilt, shame, and empathy, etc.

Conclusion

Of course, this is very subjective and you can?t really give somebody a diagnosis if you?re not a therapist. But even if this person doesn?t suffer from ASPD, you wouldn?t want to date someone with such qualities. Think twice before you let anyone get too close to you and be safe.

 

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?Sociopath? is a simple term for describing someone with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). Such people can?t understand the feelings of others and they tend to demonstrate persistent negative behavior without having guilt or remorse. The problem with ASPD is that it?s very difficult to diagnose. Sociopaths are often perceived as very charming and charismatic, which […]

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?Sociopath? is a simple term for describing someone with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). Such people can?t understand the feelings of others and they tend to demonstrate persistent negative behavior without having guilt or remorse. The problem with ASPD is that it?s very difficult to diagnose. Sociopaths are often perceived as very charming and charismatic, which enables them to manipulate people around them.

Sociopaths are definitely not the kind of men to date, so the sooner you identify them, the better. So how to spot a sociopath? That?s what we?ll talk about in this post. Keep reading!

Fast-moving

There are many signs of a sociopath behavior but this one should really make you stop for a minute. A sociopath will typically move too fast in the relationship. You?ve been on one date and he or she has already gotten too far with their feelings? You?ve only known each other for a few months and they ask you to move in together? Whereas it?s quite natural for people to hit it off, it?s not-so-natural to rush in the relationship. If you are feeling that one thing is wrong, it most likely is. It?s not like you?ll get married to someone else if they won?t leave their stuff in your apartment. At the beginning of the relationship, there should be boundaries. So, lesson number one ? beware of the new people who act like they?ve known you for ages.

Overly attentive

If sociopath has chosen you as his or her ?victim?, be sure they will do everything to make you fall for them. They?ll remember every detail from your conversations, they?ll know what you like and dislike, and you might even notice that you have a lot in common. Their opinion will change depending on how you feel about the subject. If he or she has briefly mentioned that they voted for Trump but then say that they are Democratic just like you, this should make you worry. The thing is that sociopaths are pathological liars. It?s a symptom of their psychological condition. Besides, they don?t experience guilt or shame. They will lie to you to get what they want, and they will lie a lot with no remorse.

Overly charming

If you feel that this person is irresistibly charming to the extent that it?s almost unreal, it might be one of the sociopath signs too. Such people have this skill. They can captivate and enchant others with their behavior. They sometimes act like Hollywood movie characters, and they are well aware of their power. Moreover, they do it intentionally and only to impress people that have something they want. Just so you know, if you introduce your new charming boyfriend or girlfriend to your friends and they act completely uninterested, that?s because they actually are. So, if a person is nice to you but awful to other people, and especially if they explain this extreme behavior by simply being stressed, or tired, or triggered by someone ? run away.

A master manipulator

If you feel extremely sorry for the person because life has been so unfair to them, or because they were treated so badly by their awful ex ? beware. Sociopaths are master manipulators. At the beginning of the relationship, they will probably make you want to help them. They?ll make you feel like a hero that can save them. They?ll tell you that you look beautiful when you know it?s not true. And they will promise you the moon and stars at first. They will also want to spend ALL the time with you and isolate you from family and friends. And once they smell the danger (like when you want to go out with your friends alone), they will freak out and do anything to make you feel guilty for even thinking about it.

He/she has no connection with the past

This is also one of the typical sociopath characteristics. You?ve been going out for some time and you still haven?t heard anything about his or her nears and dears. This person never goes out to the parties without you, never calls their friends or travels to visit their parents. They never tell you stories from their life. They probably moved to this city for work and haven?t met anybody yet. And they might not feel like meeting new people because they found you and it feels so good to be together. I?m not saying you should turn on miss Marple mode trying to find out their roots, but don?t be Pollyanna-ish about it. This definitely should make you suspicious.

His/her eyes are giving you creeps

Remember Jack Nicholson gaze in The Shining? If you feel this vibe from a person at least at times, run. Don?t interpret it as something seductive. An intense uninterrupted gaze is, in fact, one of the most obvious sociopathic tendencies. In addition to that, such people come to their ?prey? too close during the conversation, so close it?s actually uncomfortable. This is also a sign of a sociopath. They are completely foreign to proxemics and it?s just another symptom, like a pathological inclination to lying, inability to feel guilt, shame, and empathy, etc.

Conclusion

Of course, this is very subjective and you can?t really give somebody a diagnosis if you?re not a therapist. But even if this person doesn?t suffer from ASPD, you wouldn?t want to date someone with such qualities. Think twice before you let anyone get too close to you and be safe.

 

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Okay, so let?s say you?re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates. Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your […]

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Okay, so let?s say you?re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.

Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You?re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it?s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches.

Potential dates are everywhere and if you?re creative you can find good alternatives to the club scene. Use some of the methods below to supplement your social life. One big advantage to picking up chicks outside of the clubs is that generally they?re less defensive about being approached. If you?re a chick, obviously guys won?t mind if you approach and talk to them.

  1. College alumni clubs. Did you go to a big college somewhere? If the answer is yes and you live in a sizable town, it?s likely that there is an alumni group in your city. Join it and attend the meetings. Meetings are usually casual affairs, like happy hour on Friday night. I went to the University of Florida and there?s basically a Gator Club in every big city in the country. Contact your alumni relations office to get info or just do a Google search. At my college, they even have a Gator Singles group that you can join. The big advantage is that you always have something to talk about.
  2. Social/athletic clubs. Most decent size cities have tons of social or athletic leagues. Again, it?s a cinch to join and the meetings are usually affairs over cocktails and convo. See this site for an example in my hometown. An athletic club, say a co-ed soccer league, are mostly dudes and non-hotties, but these folks will often go out for drinks afterwards. Here?s a tip: use your new group as social proof to open complete strangers. Oh yeah, two other benefits are fitness and networking. I recently joined a sports club in Orlando and the social circle I?ve adopted there has turned out be AWESOME. The folks are attractive, work hard, play hard, and know how to have fun. It?s been one of the best moves I?ve made this year.
  3. Industry Night at the Bars. Industry nights are nights when the bars and clubs cater to people who work in bars and clubs. They run drink specials specifically for those folks. These are usually on Sunday through Tuesday, basically the off days for those businesses. Consult a local nightlife guide to get the downlow. Hit them, because industry workers are partiers and know how to socialize. If you?ve got a real job and make any sort of decent money, you have automatic social value because you have a ?real? job.
  4. Concerts. I love concerts because there are HIGH concentrations of hotass chicks, even more so than a good Saturday night at the club. I went to a White Stripes show on a Tuesday night last year and I couldn?t believe how many amazing women were walking around. It was mind-blowing. The cooler the band, the hotter the women. Go outside where the smokers are and start chatting. Go to the bar and open the first set to your left. Even during the show you can open chicks standing around. Tip: Don?t forget to hit the bars after the concert as many of these people will go out for drinks.
  5. Sporting Events. They call Wrigley Field the World?s Biggest Singles Bar because people meet and hook up after taking in a Cubs game. No joke. Again, wander around, get a beer, chat people up. Have a smoke on the breezeway and open sets. Try a pro football, basketball, or hockey game. A big college football game is a friggin? poon convention. If you?re rooting for the home team, you?ll always have something to talk about. Go hit the bars afterwards and open people wearing team gear.
  6. Host a Party. I could write a whole post about social circle game (and there are good articles out there), but throwing a party is one of the best ways to meet new people both during and before the party. Tip: A week or two before the party, hit the bars, make small talk with strangers, and invite them to your party.
  7. The Mall. This is a good one for aspiring pimps who are under the age of 21. Most of the chicks at malls are teenagers but you can often find a high end mall near a big city that has loads of well dressed HB?s wandering around. The Westshore Mall in Tampa is a place I?ve been to recently that had some crazy choocha flouncing around. I swear to God, I think beautiful women grow out of the walls there.
  8. Coffee Shops. Some people swear by day game at a coffee shop but honestly I?ve never seen high concentrations of chicks at the Starbucks in my town. Maybe I?m not looking at the right ones. Anyways, I do know plenty of folks who go there to use the wireless and surf the ?net, so try it.

BONUS (post-edit): Just thought of this, and it?s a bit untested, but trying hitting up restaurants and fast fooderies near large work locations. For example, I went to a Chipotle yesterday across the street from a hospital and there were TONS of chicks (hot nurses), and some of them were eating alone. This requires a bit of skill and some speed, but could be a goldmine. Try opening with a simple, ?Hey, how is your day?? or ?What school did you go to?? as if she?s a bit familar.

Those are some good alternatives to bars and clubs. Basically, all you need is a place where large concentrations of people go and a bit of creativity. If you live in a walking city like NYC or Boston, you can also try meeting people just by walking down the street. Have any good alternative locations to meeting people? Leave in comments?

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Okay, so let?s say you?re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates. Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your […]

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Okay, so let?s say you?re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.

Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You?re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it?s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches.

Potential dates are everywhere and if you?re creative you can find good alternatives to the club scene. Use some of the methods below to supplement your social life. One big advantage to picking up chicks outside of the clubs is that generally they?re less defensive about being approached. If you?re a chick, obviously guys won?t mind if you approach and talk to them.

  1. College alumni clubs. Did you go to a big college somewhere? If the answer is yes and you live in a sizable town, it?s likely that there is an alumni group in your city. Join it and attend the meetings. Meetings are usually casual affairs, like happy hour on Friday night. I went to the University of Florida and there?s basically a Gator Club in every big city in the country. Contact your alumni relations office to get info or just do a Google search. At my college, they even have a Gator Singles group that you can join. The big advantage is that you always have something to talk about.
  2. Social/athletic clubs. Most decent size cities have tons of social or athletic leagues. Again, it?s a cinch to join and the meetings are usually affairs over cocktails and convo. See this site for an example in my hometown. An athletic club, say a co-ed soccer league, are mostly dudes and non-hotties, but these folks will often go out for drinks afterwards. Here?s a tip: use your new group as social proof to open complete strangers. Oh yeah, two other benefits are fitness and networking. I recently joined a sports club in Orlando and the social circle I?ve adopted there has turned out be AWESOME. The folks are attractive, work hard, play hard, and know how to have fun. It?s been one of the best moves I?ve made this year.
  3. Industry Night at the Bars. Industry nights are nights when the bars and clubs cater to people who work in bars and clubs. They run drink specials specifically for those folks. These are usually on Sunday through Tuesday, basically the off days for those businesses. Consult a local nightlife guide to get the downlow. Hit them, because industry workers are partiers and know how to socialize. If you?ve got a real job and make any sort of decent money, you have automatic social value because you have a ?real? job.
  4. Concerts. I love concerts because there are HIGH concentrations of hotass chicks, even more so than a good Saturday night at the club. I went to a White Stripes show on a Tuesday night last year and I couldn?t believe how many amazing women were walking around. It was mind-blowing. The cooler the band, the hotter the women. Go outside where the smokers are and start chatting. Go to the bar and open the first set to your left. Even during the show you can open chicks standing around. Tip: Don?t forget to hit the bars after the concert as many of these people will go out for drinks.
  5. Sporting Events. They call Wrigley Field the World?s Biggest Singles Bar because people meet and hook up after taking in a Cubs game. No joke. Again, wander around, get a beer, chat people up. Have a smoke on the breezeway and open sets. Try a pro football, basketball, or hockey game. A big college football game is a friggin? poon convention. If you?re rooting for the home team, you?ll always have something to talk about. Go hit the bars afterwards and open people wearing team gear.
  6. Host a Party. I could write a whole post about social circle game (and there are good articles out there), but throwing a party is one of the best ways to meet new people both during and before the party. Tip: A week or two before the party, hit the bars, make small talk with strangers, and invite them to your party.
  7. The Mall. This is a good one for aspiring pimps who are under the age of 21. Most of the chicks at malls are teenagers but you can often find a high end mall near a big city that has loads of well dressed HB?s wandering around. The Westshore Mall in Tampa is a place I?ve been to recently that had some crazy choocha flouncing around. I swear to God, I think beautiful women grow out of the walls there.
  8. Coffee Shops. Some people swear by day game at a coffee shop but honestly I?ve never seen high concentrations of chicks at the Starbucks in my town. Maybe I?m not looking at the right ones. Anyways, I do know plenty of folks who go there to use the wireless and surf the ?net, so try it.

BONUS (post-edit): Just thought of this, and it?s a bit untested, but trying hitting up restaurants and fast fooderies near large work locations. For example, I went to a Chipotle yesterday across the street from a hospital and there were TONS of chicks (hot nurses), and some of them were eating alone. This requires a bit of skill and some speed, but could be a goldmine. Try opening with a simple, ?Hey, how is your day?? or ?What school did you go to?? as if she?s a bit familar.

Those are some good alternatives to bars and clubs. Basically, all you need is a place where large concentrations of people go and a bit of creativity. If you live in a walking city like NYC or Boston, you can also try meeting people just by walking down the street. Have any good alternative locations to meeting people? Leave in comments?

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio […]

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio host was suggesting that men and women stop looking for a date and just wait for it to happen. His co-hosts were all agreeing with this destructive advice he was offering, and adding their own useless two cents worth.

This radio host explained that two years prior, he hadn?t been looking for a date, just rushing home on Friday night to catch his favorite television shows, when his friends hooked him up on a blind date with a nice woman. The touching part was when he thanked his friends for looking out for him and said if he had not gotten lucky, he?d most likely still be single and watching television shows all alone on a Friday night.

This guy thinks that getting a date is like playing the lottery. He thinks it?s all about luck. When you?re looking for a job, do you sit at home hoping and praying that by some miracle some employer will come knocking on your door offering you a job? Of course not! When you want a job, you do everything you can to prepare yourself to be employable and then you go out knocking on doors until someone hires you. So then why don?t we do the same when we?re trying to attract and find a date with the opposite sex?

It?s because in order to get a date, we have to first evaluate our weaknesses and then take the necessary steps in order to improve ourselves to become more attractive to the opposite sex. This not only involves work but also the sacrifice of putting ourselves out there with the risk of being rejected. It?s much easier to just sit there and wait for luck to bring to us what we desire. We tend to keep following this same pattern until we start wondering what?s wrong with us, followed by a dive in confidence, and eventually giving up all together. With a lot of hard work, you will not only be able to get a date but also actually become the person you?ve always wanted to be by first discovering what areas in your dating you need to improve upon.

The dating beginner should focus on improving their personal and social life

1. Do you talk to people on a daily basis when you?re at the grocery store, movie rental store, or riding the bus home at night after work?

2. Are you capable of meeting new people and making new friends when out at social events?

3. Any unique or interesting hobbies that you can talk about that others will find interesting?

4. Do you have any goals or a career that you?re passionate about?

5. If you?re a man, have you ever approached or started a conversation with a woman before in your life ? and if not, what are you waiting for?

The intermediate dater should work on displaying personality and improving conversation skills

1. Once you start a conversation, do you possess the necessary skills to keep it going?

2. Does your personality shine through when you?re talking to others (unique interests, hopes, dreams, outlook on life, etc)?

3. Are you pleasant to be around due to having a positive attitude and respect towards others?

4. Do you dress well and keep yourself well-groomed?

5. Is your attitude towards your ex or the opposite sex positive or negative?

6. Is constant swearing a part of your normal language?

Expert daters are great at getting the attention of the opposite sex and getting a date at the end

1. Are you good at displaying confidence by entertaining groups of people?

2. Do you change how you feel about certain subjects to please others, or do you hold your ground?

3. Are you comfortable letting the opposite sex know when you?re attracted to them?

4. If you?re a man, have you ever asked a woman you were talking to for her phone number?

Remember that waiting for a date is a trap, because the longer you isolate yourself from social settings and interacting with the opposite sex, the more out of practice you become and the lower your confidence sinks. If you?re a man, be a man of action. A man doesn?t wait around hoping that whatever he desires will come to him by luck. He goes out and gets what he wants whether it?s a job, starting a business or getting a date with the attractive girl that works at the public library. He makes no excuses over what he likes or wants and realizes that life is too short not to go for what you want. Besides, what?s the worst that can happen? Even if you do fail, it?s better to try and fail than to never try at all and fail even before you get started. Then again, you might surprise yourself and succeed. Now get out there and get a date already and then tell me all about it.

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio […]

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio host was suggesting that men and women stop looking for a date and just wait for it to happen. His co-hosts were all agreeing with this destructive advice he was offering, and adding their own useless two cents worth.

This radio host explained that two years prior, he hadn?t been looking for a date, just rushing home on Friday night to catch his favorite television shows, when his friends hooked him up on a blind date with a nice woman. The touching part was when he thanked his friends for looking out for him and said if he had not gotten lucky, he?d most likely still be single and watching television shows all alone on a Friday night.

This guy thinks that getting a date is like playing the lottery. He thinks it?s all about luck. When you?re looking for a job, do you sit at home hoping and praying that by some miracle some employer will come knocking on your door offering you a job? Of course not! When you want a job, you do everything you can to prepare yourself to be employable and then you go out knocking on doors until someone hires you. So then why don?t we do the same when we?re trying to attract and find a date with the opposite sex?

It?s because in order to get a date, we have to first evaluate our weaknesses and then take the necessary steps in order to improve ourselves to become more attractive to the opposite sex. This not only involves work but also the sacrifice of putting ourselves out there with the risk of being rejected. It?s much easier to just sit there and wait for luck to bring to us what we desire. We tend to keep following this same pattern until we start wondering what?s wrong with us, followed by a dive in confidence, and eventually giving up all together. With a lot of hard work, you will not only be able to get a date but also actually become the person you?ve always wanted to be by first discovering what areas in your dating you need to improve upon.

The dating beginner should focus on improving their personal and social life

1. Do you talk to people on a daily basis when you?re at the grocery store, movie rental store, or riding the bus home at night after work?

2. Are you capable of meeting new people and making new friends when out at social events?

3. Any unique or interesting hobbies that you can talk about that others will find interesting?

4. Do you have any goals or a career that you?re passionate about?

5. If you?re a man, have you ever approached or started a conversation with a woman before in your life ? and if not, what are you waiting for?

The intermediate dater should work on displaying personality and improving conversation skills

1. Once you start a conversation, do you possess the necessary skills to keep it going?

2. Does your personality shine through when you?re talking to others (unique interests, hopes, dreams, outlook on life, etc)?

3. Are you pleasant to be around due to having a positive attitude and respect towards others?

4. Do you dress well and keep yourself well-groomed?

5. Is your attitude towards your ex or the opposite sex positive or negative?

6. Is constant swearing a part of your normal language?

Expert daters are great at getting the attention of the opposite sex and getting a date at the end

1. Are you good at displaying confidence by entertaining groups of people?

2. Do you change how you feel about certain subjects to please others, or do you hold your ground?

3. Are you comfortable letting the opposite sex know when you?re attracted to them?

4. If you?re a man, have you ever asked a woman you were talking to for her phone number?

Remember that waiting for a date is a trap, because the longer you isolate yourself from social settings and interacting with the opposite sex, the more out of practice you become and the lower your confidence sinks. If you?re a man, be a man of action. A man doesn?t wait around hoping that whatever he desires will come to him by luck. He goes out and gets what he wants whether it?s a job, starting a business or getting a date with the attractive girl that works at the public library. He makes no excuses over what he likes or wants and realizes that life is too short not to go for what you want. Besides, what?s the worst that can happen? Even if you do fail, it?s better to try and fail than to never try at all and fail even before you get started. Then again, you might surprise yourself and succeed. Now get out there and get a date already and then tell me all about it.

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits […]

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits all approach, as if every single guy and girl will always act the same under the same circumstances and environment.

Some men and women will actually make the first move, while others will sit by waiting for the perfect moment to position themselves in the right location in order to so conveniently meet that other person of their dreams. Others will cut through all the normal steps and B.S., and walk right up and introduce themselves. Sometimes this approach will work and other times it won?t.

Then there are other factors that can also change the whole dynamic of meeting another person. Has the person been drinking? Did someone else walk up to that person and say something inappropriate a few seconds before you showed up? Maybe that person just had a bad day or just broke up with their significant other.

Of course, there?s always the fact that you are looking for love in all the right places. For those who come here often, you already know how much I despise the idea of meeting someone in a bar or club. Not only does the other person expect you to be there to pick someone up for casual sex, but the ones you are able to pick up most likely go home with other people all the time. Do you really want to take run the risk of getting a disease by sleeping with someone you hardly know and who may have slept with hundreds of other people?

There are many people out there these days who don?t want relationships or don?t have a problem cheating on their husbands or wives. And with people being more open to sleeping around without being married these days, including with the same sex, your risk goes up even more now. A guy might not have only slept with fifty women but also fifty men for all you know. Same thing with women. And you have no clue as to whether they practice safe sex or not. With everybody sleeping around these days, even a condom can?t protect you against every disease out there.

And then there are relationships that everybody wants to give you advice about as if they know your circumstances exactly or what your significant other is thinking. They will tell you that the other person doesn?t love you or is cheating on you without knowing all the facts. Many experts tend to forget that when people get into a relationship, there?s always going to be something that the other person does that annoys you. Maybe he or she makes a noise when drinking their tea in the morning that just irks you to no end. He or she may stay out a bit after work because they have a few things on their mind and the best way to figure it out is having time alone. That person might not even communicate well at some times because they have insecurities and are afraid of what you might think if they tell you.

Many dating experts and even family members will make snap judgements about a relationship without having the ability to look at it from a realistic point of view. This tends not to provide any benefits to the person that needs the advice. When it comes to meeting someone or working on your relationship, don?t listen to others who have their own agendas, because most of the time they are completely wrong. Instead use good, common sense and work on talking to the other person you love in a calm and non-judgmental way. Make sure that you listen to how they feel and try to see things from their point of view. A lot of times after really looking at a situation, you will learn that you were making assumptions that were completely wrong and sabotaging your own relationship without even knowing it.

If you do need a professional after all this, don?t listen to the commercialized dating experts that talk a big game but really don?t know anything at all. Shop around and choose wisely from a real expert and not a television one. After all, many people truly aren?t professionals and communication with your loved one is usually the most effective option.

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits […]

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits all approach, as if every single guy and girl will always act the same under the same circumstances and environment.

Some men and women will actually make the first move, while others will sit by waiting for the perfect moment to position themselves in the right location in order to so conveniently meet that other person of their dreams. Others will cut through all the normal steps and B.S., and walk right up and introduce themselves. Sometimes this approach will work and other times it won?t.

Then there are other factors that can also change the whole dynamic of meeting another person. Has the person been drinking? Did someone else walk up to that person and say something inappropriate a few seconds before you showed up? Maybe that person just had a bad day or just broke up with their significant other.

Of course, there?s always the fact that you are looking for love in all the right places. For those who come here often, you already know how much I despise the idea of meeting someone in a bar or club. Not only does the other person expect you to be there to pick someone up for casual sex, but the ones you are able to pick up most likely go home with other people all the time. Do you really want to take run the risk of getting a disease by sleeping with someone you hardly know and who may have slept with hundreds of other people?

There are many people out there these days who don?t want relationships or don?t have a problem cheating on their husbands or wives. And with people being more open to sleeping around without being married these days, including with the same sex, your risk goes up even more now. A guy might not have only slept with fifty women but also fifty men for all you know. Same thing with women. And you have no clue as to whether they practice safe sex or not. With everybody sleeping around these days, even a condom can?t protect you against every disease out there.

And then there are relationships that everybody wants to give you advice about as if they know your circumstances exactly or what your significant other is thinking. They will tell you that the other person doesn?t love you or is cheating on you without knowing all the facts. Many experts tend to forget that when people get into a relationship, there?s always going to be something that the other person does that annoys you. Maybe he or she makes a noise when drinking their tea in the morning that just irks you to no end. He or she may stay out a bit after work because they have a few things on their mind and the best way to figure it out is having time alone. That person might not even communicate well at some times because they have insecurities and are afraid of what you might think if they tell you.

Many dating experts and even family members will make snap judgements about a relationship without having the ability to look at it from a realistic point of view. This tends not to provide any benefits to the person that needs the advice. When it comes to meeting someone or working on your relationship, don?t listen to others who have their own agendas, because most of the time they are completely wrong. Instead use good, common sense and work on talking to the other person you love in a calm and non-judgmental way. Make sure that you listen to how they feel and try to see things from their point of view. A lot of times after really looking at a situation, you will learn that you were making assumptions that were completely wrong and sabotaging your own relationship without even knowing it.

If you do need a professional after all this, don?t listen to the commercialized dating experts that talk a big game but really don?t know anything at all. Shop around and choose wisely from a real expert and not a television one. After all, many people truly aren?t professionals and communication with your loved one is usually the most effective option.

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